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Friday, June 18, 2010
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Minding the p’s and q’s
One of the best gifts we can give to our children besides an excellent education or a desire to succeed is great manners. With so many parents not focusing on this, children who do have them shine out among the rest, and teachers and employers often reward those with good manners with more attention and chances to progress and be promoted.
To see your children develop good manners is fairly simple as long as you know what you want to expect from them and to keep that consistent.
If your children are testing your limits and you’re worried they are picking up bad habits, it’s tempting to make a big deal over it. However, it’s often a good idea to not pick up on the bad habit much and even ignore it while they are acting out such as being rude.
If they get a big reaction from you, they see it as a way to gain attention. So, they may think all they need to do to gain attention again is be more rude.
That’s the last thing you want them to pick up as a habit!
It’s important, however, to have clear expectations of how you will be spoken to. Do not think it’s okay for your children to shout at you, hit you or demean you with their actions. It’s not.
It doesn’t matter how young they are, they need to treat you with respect. If they ask you for something and do so rudely, then tell them they can get it if they use a nice tone, and say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’.
Of course, you need to model good manners too. Your children are not there for you to order them around, so it’s important to ask them politely as well.
Sometimes we may need to tell our children to do something, rather than request them to do it, but we can still do this politely. A good reference point is whether you’d speak to a employee or work mate that same way.
However, keeping a handle on manners can be a little stressful outside the home. It’s important to prep your children every time you leave the home until they’ve build a strong habit to stay well mannered.
Before you leave, run over your behavior expectations with them, so they know what to expect. Also work out the worst-case scenario before you leave, so you know what you will do if they don’t follow through.
If they act up, and you’ve told them there will be consequences, then make sure you carry those consequences out.
Threatening to give them a smack when you get back home isn’t the most effective way to stop bad behavior.
Parents often find removing the misbehaving child from the place to be a better alternative. It may spoil that trip but will make consequent ones easier.
Whatever you do, its’ better to quietly talk to your children instead of making a big deal over it. An embarrassed child can often become even more angry at you, and may flare up again.
While we all want our children to be perfect and not to embarrass us, we do need to remember to have realistic expectations in relation to their age and development.
For to exert their ‘independence’ and may not be the tidiest of eaters.
Sometimes, you will feel like a broken record having to repeat the same things. But if you stay consistent and give them time learn new manners, you’ll end up with lovely children you’ll be delighted to have in your home.
To see your children develop good manners is fairly simple as long as you know what you want to expect from them and to keep that consistent.
If your children are testing your limits and you’re worried they are picking up bad habits, it’s tempting to make a big deal over it. However, it’s often a good idea to not pick up on the bad habit much and even ignore it while they are acting out such as being rude.
If they get a big reaction from you, they see it as a way to gain attention. So, they may think all they need to do to gain attention again is be more rude.
That’s the last thing you want them to pick up as a habit!
It’s important, however, to have clear expectations of how you will be spoken to. Do not think it’s okay for your children to shout at you, hit you or demean you with their actions. It’s not.
It doesn’t matter how young they are, they need to treat you with respect. If they ask you for something and do so rudely, then tell them they can get it if they use a nice tone, and say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’.
Of course, you need to model good manners too. Your children are not there for you to order them around, so it’s important to ask them politely as well.
Sometimes we may need to tell our children to do something, rather than request them to do it, but we can still do this politely. A good reference point is whether you’d speak to a employee or work mate that same way.
However, keeping a handle on manners can be a little stressful outside the home. It’s important to prep your children every time you leave the home until they’ve build a strong habit to stay well mannered.
Before you leave, run over your behavior expectations with them, so they know what to expect. Also work out the worst-case scenario before you leave, so you know what you will do if they don’t follow through.
If they act up, and you’ve told them there will be consequences, then make sure you carry those consequences out.
Threatening to give them a smack when you get back home isn’t the most effective way to stop bad behavior.
Parents often find removing the misbehaving child from the place to be a better alternative. It may spoil that trip but will make consequent ones easier.
Whatever you do, its’ better to quietly talk to your children instead of making a big deal over it. An embarrassed child can often become even more angry at you, and may flare up again.
While we all want our children to be perfect and not to embarrass us, we do need to remember to have realistic expectations in relation to their age and development.
For to exert their ‘independence’ and may not be the tidiest of eaters.
Sometimes, you will feel like a broken record having to repeat the same things. But if you stay consistent and give them time learn new manners, you’ll end up with lovely children you’ll be delighted to have in your home.
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